A Monday Mommy Post: Sneaky Thief
Women are complex.
We think 1,000 miles per minute. We have strong emotions. We are passionate, specific and critical... And we are all different. Very different.
Its just one of those things. Trying to explain my thought process to my husband makes it even more obvious how different women are from men. Just in our approach to life...but this girl vs boys variance is more obvious... there is also a clear uniqueness from one women to the next.
I think a huge part of this is due to our complexity, and because we are complex the variety is wonderful. I can find people who "just get me" and yet decorate, eat, talk, etc completely different than me. Or sometimes the complete opposite.
So there is an element of fun in our diversity... but an easier approach to these differences is to compare. Good or bad, we all do it. With people we love, with strangers, with family, friends... its easy to do.
For the past few weeks his quote has been cycling around...
Its simple.
and very true.
As a woman, I am excellent at comparing. Its kind of just built in. Especially when it comes to appearances or how I am perceived as. It goes up a notch with motherhood. All the judgements of the best way or the only way or how your kids act or sleep or eat or... the list goes on and on.
And though I don't think we can just switch off this ability to compare, I think I need to become more conscience of it. Stop the little thief before he steals my joy. Understanding that I was made exactly how I am on purpose. With flaws. Not perfect. With quirks... its just that awesome variety element.
Joy is defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as:
We think 1,000 miles per minute. We have strong emotions. We are passionate, specific and critical... And we are all different. Very different.
Its just one of those things. Trying to explain my thought process to my husband makes it even more obvious how different women are from men. Just in our approach to life...but this girl vs boys variance is more obvious... there is also a clear uniqueness from one women to the next.
I think a huge part of this is due to our complexity, and because we are complex the variety is wonderful. I can find people who "just get me" and yet decorate, eat, talk, etc completely different than me. Or sometimes the complete opposite.
So there is an element of fun in our diversity... but an easier approach to these differences is to compare. Good or bad, we all do it. With people we love, with strangers, with family, friends... its easy to do.
For the past few weeks his quote has been cycling around...
Its simple.
and very true.
As a woman, I am excellent at comparing. Its kind of just built in. Especially when it comes to appearances or how I am perceived as. It goes up a notch with motherhood. All the judgements of the best way or the only way or how your kids act or sleep or eat or... the list goes on and on.
And though I don't think we can just switch off this ability to compare, I think I need to become more conscience of it. Stop the little thief before he steals my joy. Understanding that I was made exactly how I am on purpose. With flaws. Not perfect. With quirks... its just that awesome variety element.
Joy is defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as:
joi/ noun
1.
a feeling of great happiness.
Joy is also a word commonly associated with the soon approaching Christmas season. So as I see "Joy" all over the place in decorations, cards, etc, I'm looking at it a little differently this year. Joy is the feeling of great happiness, sure (thank you Merriam and Webster) but it is the strongest when it is found in the void of comparison.
remove comparison. experience joy. .............challenge accepted.
ps
Okay just a side note, this isn't an excuse to settle. we all have areas in our lives that we need to work on, I don't think you can say "that's just how I am..." with poor communication, bad eating habits, grumpy disposition, or whatever it is you know needs to be removed or altered in your life. Not only are we as women great at comparing to feel better about ourselves, but we are also awesome at manipulation, even when it comes to creating mental valid excuses. Especially when women around us are backing us up. So just a for-what-its-worth, accept the imperfect person you are, sure, but never stop challenging yourself to be the best version of that. :)
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